Saturday, June 30, 2007

Life is what you make it...

I was browsing the other blogsites of my friends when I came across the webpage of Amiel. One post there was about the write-up he read on the Internet which entitled "Life is what you make it". I tried to search on it on google and found the exact lines that caught my eye.

"Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours."

I've been to several relationships and got really hurt. Perhaps its because I've given too much, and expected too much in return. I know, when I love someone, I give everything 100%, and nothing left for myself. This is where I went wrong...When I give 100% and receive only 50%, I start to complain, become demanding, possessive, and insecure. And so I realize that before I love someone, I should love myself first.

Loving someone and being loved in return is really the most wonderful feeling that anyone can ever experience. But what if one day, love suddenly fades? Then I don't think it was love in the first place. Perhaps, it was just infatuation. Because if you really love someone, you will stick with him/her through thick and thin. As what Olops says on his status, "If you can't accept me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best". That status shows a fair-weather friend, an idea I've read from the ebook Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. A fair-weather friend is someone who sticks with a person when she is loving, caring, and happy, but when she becomes upset and uncaring, he starts to distance himself and walk away. So, if the fair-weather friend can't stick with her when she needs him, then he doesn't deserve her at all when she is at her best.

Take note that there is no such thing as perfect person nor perfect relationship. There will always come a time for fights and arguments, and these fights will show the worst side of both parties. But if both share true love, these fights and negative attitudes will not be enough basis for love to fade and for the relationship to end. Instead, these will strengthen the relationship. But if what happened is the opposite, then it wasn't true love at all, only infatuation...Loving unconditionally means accepting the person for who she really is, for not trying to change her to meet ones standards and bringing out the "hidden beast" in her, for not putting her under probationary period where her attitude is being observed and once failed all the good things she did will be forgotten, and loving without expecting her to be perfect at all times and anything in return.